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MexiMilf 50F
32 posts
8/29/2022 11:58 am
The end of my marriage


I decided to tell my husband that I needed more.  I wasn't getting enough sex, but also missed having him around to hug or even just talk to.  He shrugged it off.

I said that I'd like to make some trips with him, even if it was either just the short trips or the longer ones.  I was trying to build up the courage to say that I wanted to see other men if we could not do that but it never got to that point.

He listed reason after reason as to why that would not work, and with every reason he got angrier and angrier.  Finally he was almost screaming at me and said 'Why can't you just sit home and wait for me like a good wife would?'.  That was it.

I was angry too and shouted back.  I told him I didn't want to fight, I just wanted to find a solution so I was not lonely and waiting for him to get back all the time.  He told me that I didn't appreciate what he was doing and didn't realize how hard it was for him to have to leave all the time.  I asked him if it was so hard for him to leave all the time, why didn't he want me to come with him sometimes?  When he said 'I said no, and that's it.  End of discussion!', I lost it.

I know it wasn't fair of me to say since I have cheated on him, but I said 'I bet it's because you have a side chick in these small towns.  I bet when you say you are sleeping in your truck to save money, you are actually hopping into bed with some skank.'  His face went bright red as if he had been caught red handed and he stormed out.

He returned 2 days later just in time to get his things together and head out on another job.  Before he left he said 'When I get back I expect you to be moved out', and walked out the door...

This wasn't as abrupt as it might seem.  We have been having issues and arguing about being apart so much for some time now.  Before I started cheating I seriously tried to find solutions so that we could see each other more but to no avail.  Here are some of my ideas and his response.

Me:  I could make some trips with you...
Him:  The sleeper is too small and then both of us would have to eat out.

Me:  Take less trips.
Him:  I need all the trips I can get because I never know when the next one will be.

Me:  Don't take as many long trips.
Him:  The longer trips are the ones that pay the most.

I know he worked hard.  I know it's tough to be an independent trucker.  I know I was a shit to have cheated on him.

I remember when he first started doing long trips he looked like he was going to cry when he had to leave.  I am not sure when that changed but before we split it was a quick peck on the cheek and he was gone.

Now I guess it's time to move on with my life.

Than You for taking the time to read this.  Comments are welcome.  I am not looking for sympathy, and hoping that nobody feels the need to shit on me.

Maria

youngbiperv 29M
53 posts
8/29/2022 12:08 pm

Im sorry he wasnt more open to the possibility or that you even got the chance to present it as an option. I hope now though you can move forward and find what you need.


ItJustUs 51M/44F

8/29/2022 12:27 pm

Every time I read about a split up, I get sad, but thankful all at once. It makes me realize how lucky I am. Times are hard on couples. Take care on your new journey.


AbstractSkies 55M
75 posts
8/29/2022 12:35 pm

I think that many here can relate to your feelings and sorry about having to go through a divorce but it is for the better. I refer to my divorce as something that occurred in a previous life.
I have quite of few friends who were or are truck drivers and the old say, " They have a girl ready in every town" is quite true. I am not saying all men do but majority does.
Enjoy your new life and congrats


daisymaytv 112T
93 posts
8/29/2022 12:48 pm

Read through. Good luck with whatever direction life leads you and have fun but play safe.

Daisy


HungryWolf78 45M

8/29/2022 1:07 pm

Not all relationships work out, even if it they started off good. Sometimes it is best to move on even if it hurts at the time. Hope you will find yourself in a happier place once you move on.


meltwill2 72M  
3726 posts
8/29/2022 1:20 pm

You will be ok. It takes a little time but it will come around. Mine lasted a long time but the longer we were together the less and less we had in common. I finally had to file for a divorce. I see lots of my friends in 30-50 year marriages getting divorces so I don't feel so bad about mine. Most of those I would never have thought they would get a divorce. Take care and start having a good time and living a little.


rondiri 64M
11035 posts
8/29/2022 1:23 pm

Sometimes you have to look elsewhere for what you need.


andei2 67F

8/29/2022 1:24 pm

Tough one. Divorce is unpleasant but rarely unexpected. I hope you move on and find what you need.


DeepDiver22 52M/32F

8/29/2022 2:01 pm

Did he know you had cheated? If he had found out that might have caused him to withdraw and doomed the marriage


dilbertsdog 66M  
83 posts
8/29/2022 2:36 pm

Absent or long-distance relationships are stupidly hard to maintain


oldman3113 56M
10 posts
8/29/2022 2:43 pm

well it takes two to make it work and it takes two to make it fail good luck in your search


homealonetyler54 70M
2 posts
8/29/2022 3:31 pm

Sorry mija. I know its tough, but sometimes you have to do things for yourself and this is one of them. Your intuition about him having others is probably correct because if I had a woman that looked like you I would never let you out of my sight. You are in your prime and with time things will get better.


bdsmDOMdaddy 61M
4023 posts
8/29/2022 3:56 pm

Eh Se La Vie!...no need to beat yourself up doing what was needed getting what you needed thou you shoulda told him the truth gotten it off your shoulders when he told you “be gone by time l get back!”
that was your chance to empty the dirty laundry & wipe it all clean start fresh & new w clean slate!
most likely he has another or few as most long haul truckers do but then again maybe he doesn’t?!
no judgement here you’re out of a unhappy situation now go be free & happy take the lessons learned & make sure the next one is home every nite!


manni_pr 51T
2589 posts
8/29/2022 4:42 pm

I believe you when you say this was not sudden. These issues are usually cumulative and the trips are probably a portion. It seems like it's time to move on, although as a last measure... maybe separate for a while and see how you both are feeling after awhile? It's tough.
Wishing you the best whether you stick on your decision or looking at other alternatives. I know it may feel like defeat but in the end, time heals.
Godspeed


NoNonsense_Dom 70M  
1517 posts
8/29/2022 5:52 pm

Well girl, first up, I have been on the end of a cheating spouse and it fucking hurts and angers. For me, it took me a long time to get over it, and eventually trust again. IF he found out about your cheating then that could be the reason for pulling away from you initially.

Now in my mind, as an individual, you need to grow, and when you become a part of a relationship, that growth needs to continue BY BOTH PARTIES, not just the husband or the wife. If that growth does not happen, then the relationship WILL die, just as the fruit on the vine will wither. So if he didn't know about your cheating, then it is clear to me that BOTH of you are at fault because of that lack of growth as a couple. From my perspective as a dominant, I have to give my sub/wife a safe and secure place to be herself, to enjoy life and be contented within the relationship. HE obviously didn't give you that, and so your feelings for your situation are going to become very jaded causing you to look elsewhere. THAT is just human nature.

Now I don't know whether you were kinky before your marriage or whether the both of you were kinky during your marriage, but if you are missing out at home and are becoming more disillusioned with what you have, then of course you will go looking for that human contact. The thing is that in this kinky lifestyle we say HONEST and OPEN communication are essential, and that is true, because otherwise how are we to know what is needed for that relationship to blossom and bloom. The thing is, that those same requirements for honest and open communication are essential in the vanilla world as well. And from what I see, far too many fail to realise that and actually do it. Once again, this is something that BOTH of you have neglected, and now you are living through the consequences of that.

Mexi, my advice to you is this. Your marriage is now dead, so go and find someone who will work with you into building a reasonable happy and fulfilling life. If that is in the kink lifestyle or the vanilla life makes no difference, just be honest and open with whoever you hook up with, and enjoy what that relationship brings, BUT don't forget the need for growth by both you and your new partner. If you want to be a slut or have an open relationship, then make sure you are upfront with the prospective partner, and IF they can't give you those things, then leave them and move on until you do find someone who will work with you.

If you ever want to chat about this, then feel free to leave a message in my blog mailbox. BTW, I am not here to judge you or your hubby for what has happened. I am telling you about life as I see it and where BOTH of you have failed with what you had.


PissSlutsForCock 40F
5 posts
8/29/2022 6:55 pm

I’m sorry it came to that. His almost hostility makes me think he was likely fucking others on the side. The thought crossed my mind with my own hubby as although not a trucker he travels a lot for meetings but my hubby has always been very vanilla in his sexual interests. If mine was cheating on me so be it as I have done soon him and fair is fair. That said bonus part is you are free to live the life you feel you should and not have to be restricted by hiding it although I admit myself keeping it from my hubby is part of what made it so hot let alone in my case the fact that I submitted to other men sexually whenever the opportunity made it possible. We all need to choose our own paths and accept ourselves for who we are and live the life we feel we are meant to do at some point.


imcre8ive 64M

8/29/2022 7:12 pm

There are some very good answers. I hope you heed some of the advice. As for my answer to you. I'm a hard person, I think you have admitted something to try and make yourself feel better. I get the impression that down deep you really still have feelings for you OLD hubby and you know what he did was to work hard to keep you happy.


ridermantel 68M

8/29/2022 7:38 pm

    Quoting manni_pr:
    I believe you when you say this was not sudden. These issues are usually cumulative and the trips are probably a portion. It seems like it's time to move on, although as a last measure... maybe separate for a while and see how you both are feeling after awhile? It's tough.
    Wishing you the best whether you stick on your decision or looking at other alternatives. I know it may feel like defeat but in the end, time heals.
    Godspeed
Well said.


accent11 64M
55 posts
8/30/2022 8:06 am

Thanks for posting, I am wanting to end a relationship that has lasted since I was in my 20.s. I miss being close to a woman; I dont think she has loved me for years. I cant take the insults anymore, even though I did for years. I just hope I have the courage to leave, though my whole family will disown me


ridermantel 68M

8/30/2022 6:52 pm

    Quoting accent11:
    Thanks for posting, I am wanting to end a relationship that has lasted since I was in my 20.s. I miss being close to a woman; I dont think she has loved me for years. I cant take the insults anymore, even though I did for years. I just hope I have the courage to leave, though my whole family will disown me
Marriage cam mean so many things to each of us. Are two people ever totally on the the same page? I don't know. That is my 2 cents worth.


MASTERMISTERY3 57M
52 posts
8/31/2022 8:02 am

I'm sorry ....... I'm free .... interested?


socalmale1 72M
85 posts
9/1/2022 7:51 pm

It is easy for me to say "Walk Out". I would say I am sympathetic you your situation. You can read a million comments as to what you should do but the fact is; it is going to be your choice. Couples are in relationships for different reasons, romance, finance, convenience and more. As you get older the options get smaller.
I would say, take a break, distance yourself from the situation. And think about what you really want. Not for him but for you both. I hope you find a solution and for your own health and self value.


NaughtyMan4ALady 20M

9/16/2022 9:24 am

It takes two to communicate and work on a relationship. Just because you get married that does not ever end. Hopefully you can pick up and move forward in time but no matter how a relationship ends, it hurts for a while. Sounds to me like you will be ok moving forward, you deserve better. Talk to me any time. Kisses and hugs xx


BigMerv22 53M  
172 posts
9/17/2022 2:40 am

At this point you need to make you and your happiness your number one priority. He seems to have made up his mind. Now you're free to find what makes you happy and pursue it. Just take it one day at a time.


FeralBeastHungry 39M

9/26/2022 2:33 pm

I guess he thought the grass was greener elsewhere, but you look incredibly sexy. I'd love to draw the shades, turn down the lights, and lay you down



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